By May Rostom:
Margaret Munnerlyn Mitchell the author of "Gone with the wind" once said "I was never one to patiently pick up broken fragments and glue them together again and tell myself that the mended whole was as good as new...
What's broken is broken and I'd rather remember it as it was at its best than mend it and see the broken places as long as I lived".
This quote got me wondering if human relationships are like fine china, once broken can never be mended.
I started asking my friends if they saw the most beautiful vase they laid eyes on with a crack along its side, would they still buy it and try to hide that cracked line or will they settle for another one without the crack?
Most of them said that it was hard to live with something broken because even though the lines were hidden, you know they're still there but sometimes you don’t want perfection and you know that this is what you want so that’s when you'll buy that broken vase. Take for instance a broken partnership.
Nowadays there are many reasons to break up with your partner whether he cheated on you with your best friend, abused you or simply disappeared when you needed him the most.
When would you stop calling this "partnership" and accept the fact that it's nothing but an ugly, distorted form of an acquaintance? Would you confront him, tell him what's bothering you and try to work things out although knowing you'll never be able to fully forgive him or would you lash out on him , probably hit him then ignore all this because he isn't worth the time, effort nor argument?
I wonder if stuff like that can be fixed. When does too much gluing become messy? How much hiding the flaws should we tolerate?
When should we just throw it away and find a better vase?
After observing many relationships around me I noticed that we all have cracks to hide whether if your man is the loud, angry type that yells at you in front of your friends or he is the super jealous type that freaks out if you're wearing tight fitted clothes or he is the careless cool guy that doesn’t believe in calling you everyday to check on you.
Sarcasm usually finds its way in awkward situations like these to cover up the crack until you can get home and glue it.
I see many girls that hate the fact that he's nervous, uptight or careless but still carry on being in the relationship pretending that everything's alright and that in my opinion is the biggest mistake anyone can make.
If he's like that now he won't change and most probably he'll get worse so don’t glue it thinking that maybe the issue will resolve itself , instead accept the fact that he's like that or just walk away (always better sooner than later).
Don’t deny the fact that you hate this about him or the fact that you wont be able to alter yourself for him and stop acting like everything's ok when its not.
We all had a broken vase and to others we were the broken vase but those of us who survived threw it away before they cut themselves.
As I started with a quote I'd also like to end with one, "numbing the pain for a while will make it worse when you finally feel it". J.K. Rowling